GET FIRED UP
YOUR REPEATING PATTERN
RESULTS ARE IN…
Looks like your partner in crime is…
THE PEOPLE PLEASER
“You’re warm, thoughtful and deeply attuned to what others need. People feel safe around you… you show up, you care and you make space for everyone else. But sometimes that care comes at a cost: your own needs get buried, your truth gets watered down and resentment quietly builds. Underneath it all? A fear that if you stop pleasing, you might lose connection altogether.…”
Let’s be real though - this isn’t a flaw, its an adaption.
This part of you formed for a reason. It’s helped you cope, stay safe and make it through life when things got overwhelming.
It’s not broken — it’s brilliant and it’s also probably pretty bloody tired too.
How this pattern shows up
When relationships feel tense or uncertain, your People Pleaser jumps in to smooth it all over.
You might:
Say yes when you mean no
Avoid conflict or strong opinions to keep the peace
Put others’ needs way ahead of your own
Feel guilty for taking up space or asking for help
Keep the focus on others so you don’t have to face your own shittiness
This part of you is working overtime to protect something tender.
What it’s trying to protect?
The People Pleaser believes that being liked = being safe. It learned early on that connection can feel fragile and that the best way to keep it is by being easy to love.
It’s trying to shield you from:
Rejection or disapproval
Being seen as “too much” or “not enough”
Conflict or confrontation
The risk of being abandoned, misunderstood or alone
This part doesn’t want you to get hurt, so it tries to keep everything soft and smooth.
How it might be holding you back
When this pattern goes unchecked, it can:
Leave you disconnected from your own needs or voice
Build quiet resentment that leaks out in sneaky ways
Keep you in relationships where you’re not fully met
Drain your energy trying to be what others need
Stop you from saying the hard thing or standing in your truth
The cost of keeping the peace? Often, your own 🤦♂️
The superpower behind the pattern
When it’s not running the whole show, your People Pleaser is a gift.
It brings:
Serious empathy and emotional intelligence
The ability to listen, hold space and tune in
Loyalty, generosity and care that people can feel
The drive to create harmony and support others
A grounded sensitivity that sees what’s unspoken
Your capacity to connect is real, and powerful, when it’s not coming from fear.
How to work with it differently
This isn’t about becoming selfish or cold. It’s about reclaiming your right to belong — without needing to earn it.
Try this:
Notice when it shows up. Where do you feel it in your body — tight chest? shallow breath?
Name the urge. “I’m putting their comfort ahead of my truth right now.”
Ask what you’re afraid might happen. Be honest. No shame.
Check in with your needs. What would you choose if you weren’t worried about disappointing anyone?
Experiment with small truth-telling. A no, a pause or a “can I get back to you?”
Remember: You don’t have to abandon yourself to stay connected.
Wait up… is this not quite landing?
If you’re reading this thinking, “Hmm… doesn’t sound like me,” no stress. These quizzes aren’t perfect and sometimes we click through life in weird ways. If it feels a bit off, no drama, just have a peek at the other patterns - your flavour might be hiding in there instead.
