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Looks like your dominant repeating pattern is:

THE OBSERVER

“You’re thoughtful, perceptive and incredibly tuned in. You notice the mood in a room, the pause in someone’s voice, the energy beneath the words. You read people well — sometimes before they even speak. But while your presence is quiet, your inner world is full. You often hang back, not because you don’t feel… but because you feel so much.”

Let’s be real though - this isn’t a flaw, its an adaption.

This part of you formed for a reason. It’s helped you cope, stay safe and make it through life when things got overwhelming.
It’s not broken — it’s brilliant and it’s probably a bit tired too.

How this pattern shows up

When things feel emotionally charged or uncertain, your Observer steps in to watch, scan and assess — from a safe distance.

You might:

  • Hold back your thoughts, feelings or needs to avoid rocking the boat

  • Feel invisible in group settings, even when you're fully present

  • Keep your true opinions private, especially if they could lead to conflict

  • Be seen as “calm” or “easy-going” even when you’re stirred up inside

  • Avoid asking for support, assuming you should just manage things quietly

This part of you believes that staying on the side-lines is the safest place to be.

What it’s trying to protect?

The Observer learned early that attention can come with risk — criticism, misunderstanding, rejection or just being too much. So it made a quiet deal with the world: “I’ll stay out of the way if it means I don’t have to feel that again.”

It might be protecting you from:

  • Emotional exposure

  • Being misunderstood, dismissed or criticised

  • Taking up space and being told it’s “too much”

  • The pain of asking for something and not receiving it

It’s trying to keep you safe by keeping you unseen.

How it might be holding you back

When The Observer takes over, it can:

  • Make it hard to express what you really feel or need

  • Create distance in relationships — even when you crave closeness

  • Reinforce the story that your voice doesn’t matter

  • Leave you feeling lonely, unseen or emotionally disconnected

  • Hold back your creativity, aliveness or sense of self

Staying quiet might keep things safe — but it can also keep you stuck.

The superpower behind the pattern

When this part is in balance, it’s a powerful gift.

You bring:

  • Deep emotional intelligence and intuition

  • The ability to hold space without taking up space

  • A calm, steady presence that others often feel safe around

  • Insight into dynamics and patterns others might miss

  • Strong inner boundaries and quiet resilience

You don’t just see — you perceive and that’s a rare kind of wisdom.

How to work with it differently

You don’t need to stop observing — you just don’t need to disappear to stay safe.

Try this:

  • Notice when you pull back. Is there tension in your chest? A lump in your throat?

  • Name the pattern. “Ah, I’m observing instead of expressing.”

  • Ask what you’re afraid might happen if you speak up. Be honest — no shame.

  • Start small. One sentence. One request. One truth.

  • Let yourself take up a little more space. Your presence isn’t a problem. It’s a gift.

You’re allowed to be seen and safe at the same time.

What now?

  • 📩 Keep an eye on your inbox — I’ll send you a few short emails to help you work with your pattern

  • 🧠 Naming the pattern is step one — now we explore what it actually looks like in your real life

  • 💬 Want to go a bit deeper? Book a 1:1 Pattern Debrief session with me — 45 mins, $45 on Zoom

  • 🔍 Curious about the other patterns? You might recognise parts of yourself in them too — we’re rarely just one thing

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